I probably abuse the word ‘adjacent’ way too much in my day-to-day life. A lot of the time I am just trying to be funny, but when you think about it, it really does make sense. Outside of family, teachers really do become like “deputy parents” in a child’s life. We, ourselves, even go as far as to say “my kids/children …” It is only natural when you spend up to 8 hours per day, 5 days a week, months, terms and years watching these individuals move from strength to strength, growing and developing and you being right there to pick them up when they fall.
Young, newly qualified teachers, including myself, might not have reached that stage quite as yet, given our age, especially in my case where many of my senior learners are just a few years younger than me, it would be weird to say “my kids … “, but we do feel it in our hearts as the learners just keep pulling at our heart strings each and every day.
Being a teacher, parent-adjacent, is so wild in the sense that you are now in change of ruining many individual lives at once. I’m joking, just something I heard on a series I watched recently. Seriously, it is an experience like none other. I understand the multiple hats that teachers and parents have to wear EVERY single day:
Truth be told, you don’t wear one hat at a time, you have to wear them all, whether or not they add to your outfit for the day. High expectations from the school, learners and parents who are most likely doing the exact same thing at home. Maybe that’s why teachers and parents sometimes don’t see eye to eye, differing parenting styles.
I can’t help but think whether this is too much of a high expectation for teachers? Thinking about schools where there are more than 40 learners in a classroom per 5 other classes that a teacher teaches every day. I do not think that is something that I would be able to survive. I am sure there are great teachers who can, but they would be so much better if they had a more manageable workload, and reduced class to teacher ratio.
As teachers, we cannot help but care so much. That is the real trap that could lead many to never getting out of a negative environment. Parenthood be like that, all in or nothing at all because ultimately your kids are your responsibility no matter how badly they can push your buttons at times. They become your reason every day for doing what you do, trying to get them to reach for better.
Maybe now I’m probably giving off big sister vibes. Probably one day I’ll have the motherhood vibes, only time will tell.
Shocking news: I’ve made it through a whole term (quarter) of school!! Celebrate 🍾. Proud of me!! I wonder what term 2 will bring. More marking and more stress.
Thank you for reading. Much love and light!